Wives, Partners And Others

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Wives, Partners And Others:
Living with Cross-Dressing

Jan & Diane Dixon (Eds.)

1991, Educational Resources

180 Pages


From the Introduction

It is difficult enough to maintain a relationship in today's "throw-away" society. We're all familiar with the statistics on divorce. When problems occur in a relationship, it often appears to be easier to walk away from them and dissolve the relationship than it is to try to solve them. The normal complications of any relationship like finances, children, relatives, sexual compatibility, etc. cause strains which can result in the dissolution of that relationship.

Cross-dressing adds an even more dramatic complication. Often the cross-dresser does not understand his/her own situation, and does not discuss it with the partner early in the relationship. This can only cause resentments and mistrust when the issue is finally uncovered. The cross-dresser often tries to ignore the situation hoping that, in time, it will go away. Unfortunately, in most cases it will not.

For wives whose husbands take on a new persona in the femme role, what is her relationship to that third person? Are they "girlfriends" or rivals? Acquaintances or enemies? When her husband uses cross-dressing for a sexual experience, how does she view that? Does she become involved by sharing actively in the sexual experience and making it a part of the couple's sexual experience together? Or does she ignore it, telling her husband that she never wants to see or hear of this "perversion", and certainly doesn't want any involvement in it.

... This book contains articles, letters, hints and speeches as well as some of the most frequently asked questions and the answers given on one specific occasion. Contributors include cross-dressers, spouses or partners, professionals and others involved in the "community."


Table of Contents

REVELATION

Your Wife, Should You Tell Her? - Carol Taylor
How to Tell Your Wife - Jane Ellen Fairfax
The TV's Wife - Heather Peerson
Introducing My Wife to BE ALL '90 - Nancy C.
Why Communication and Healing are So Important - Irene
Telling the Children - Joy
Shall I Tell the Kids? - Robyn G

COPING

Wife on a Roller-Coaster Ride - I.M. Hopeful
An Open Letter to Distressed Wives of Cross-Dressers - Vanessa Sims
A Wife's Closet - Shirley Kay
He / She - We and They - Partners of Transvestites Cross-Dressing from a Career Woman's Viewpoint - K.J. Moore
A Married Transvestite is Never Alone - K.J. Moore
Response to K.J. Moore's Editorial #55 - Roz G.
Remarks from the Wife of a Cross-Dresser - Donna's Wife
Couples - Lynda Frank
The Issue of Respect - Mary
A Domestic Dialogue - Robyn G.
Go Slow and Don't Push - Robyn G.
Some Considerations on a Wife's Acceptance of her Husband's Cross-Dressing Behaviors - Rosalyn G.
A Wife's Experience at Fantasia Fair - Flo N
Learning to Live with Transvestism

MAKING IT WORK

The Married Transvestite - Louise Y.
Your Wife's Rights - Helen Thordsen
The Wedding of Kevin and Renee - Renee Chevalier
Editorial - Merissa Sherrill Lynn
Stress on the Significant Other - Carol Y.
Why Do You Participate? - Marilyn Frank
ATTN.: Wives / Significant Others - A Woman's Place is in Tri-ESS - Shirley Kay

A PROFESSIONAL OPINION

Women Married to Transvestites - Thomas S. Weinberg and Vern L. Bullough
Stages of Resolution with Spouses - Tomye Kelley, M.A.
To Have and to Hold - Roger E. Peo, Ph.D.
Wives of Cross-Dressers - Isolated and Misunderstood - Roger E. Peo, Ph.D.
On Wives' Support Groups - Roger E. Peo, Ph.D.
TV Relationships - Leah C. Schaefer
Questions Asked By Wives and Mates of Cross-Dressers - Renee Chevalier and Merissa Sherrill Lynn

AND THEN THERE ARE OTHERS

Editorial - Merissa Sherrill Lynn
A Message to All TS's - Whatever Stage - and Their Loved Ones - The Spouse of A Transsexual
How I See It - The 15-Year-Old Daughter of A Transvestite
Thoughts of A Mother - Jeanne Ebner